It is not trasphobic to not be attracted to trans people. I repeat. It is NOT transphobic to NOT be attracted to trans people!
it is not transphobic to not be attracted to a trans* person in particular
it is transphobic when you assume every person you encounter is cisgender and that every trans* person is identifiable simply by looking at them
it is transphobic to assume that every trans* person is going to disclose their trans* status to you, considering that can get them killed and they are simply trying to keep themselves safe
it is transphobic to assume every trans* person has genitalia that looks like the gender they were assigned to at birth
it is transphobic to assign gender to genitalia
you have no obligation to fuck a trans* person
if you say you would never fuck a trans* person, regardless of whether or not you knew them before they told you, regardless of whether or not they have had genital reassignment surgery, you can go fuck yourself you transphobic piece of trash
“An overwhelming majority of us come from dysfunctional families in which we were taught we were not okay, where we were shamed, verbally and/or physically abused, and emotionally neglected even as were also taught to believe that we were loved. For most folks it is just too threatening to embrace a definition of love that would no longer enable us to see love as present in our families. Too many of us need to cling to a notion of love that either makes abuse acceptable or at least makes it seem that whatever happened was not that bad.”—All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks (via thechocolatebrigade)
“You know those girls everyone loves to shit all over? The ones who really fucking love something? Those girls, man. They take all that energy, all that circulating fire in their veins, and instead of letting it destroy them, they choose to love, ferociously. Be it a band, or a book, or a series of films. They do it to keep themselves sane, and yet we mock them for it. Teenage girls find a buoy for themselves in the sea of emotional ruin, and they hold on tighter than anyone else.”—Segment of “Why I Fucking Love Teenage Girls (A Personal Essay from an Almost Adult)”
“Students who acquire large debts putting themselves through school are unlikely to think about changing society. When you trap people in a system of debt, they can’t afford the time to think. Tuition fee increases are a ‘disciplinary technique’ and, by the time students graduate, they are not only loaded with debt, but have also internalized the ‘disciplinarian culture’. This makes them efficient components of the consumer economy.”—Noam Chomsky (via learned—helplessness)
"Violence against women, an expression of men’s power, is present in various forms and degrees throughout women’s lives. As a naturalized part of the culture, symbols, institutional functioning, and cultural prescriptions, it shapes identities and internalizes subjectivities."
- Mercedes Olivera, Vioencia Feminicida: Violence Against Women and Mexico’s Structural Crisis exceprt
“What do ruined people do? Weird shit. This seems to be the consensus of psychoanalysts as far back as Freud and Jung; the traumatized self creates, out of necessity, a system of self-care that is keen to avoid repeat trauma. This makes change difficult; it makes people who’ve had part of their psyches destroyed by unmanageable emotions push people and emotions away, create obstacles, generate unnecessary drama.”—Emily Rapp, “Grief Magic,” The Rumpus