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I dig your little laugh and I’m lovin’ your quick wit. I even...

Fri, 17 May 2013 23:00:00 -0400

I dig your little laugh and I’m lovin’ your quick wit. I even love it when you’re fakin’ it. And it might sound a little strange for me to say to you, but I’m proud to be you.

And I’m slowly turning into you.

d-issolve: If i got a dollar for every time i thought about you, i would start thinking about you

Fri, 17 May 2013 22:00:00 -0400

d-issolve:

If i got a dollar for every time i thought about you, i would start thinking about you

this is a crucial resource, but I just want to point out that...

Fri, 17 May 2013 21:00:00 -0400

this is a crucial resource, but I just want to point out that most 800 numbers (which crisis hotlines usually are) won’t show up on a landline phone bill. if you use a cellphone, it’ll depend on your carrier.

A man is sexually assaulted by four women. Rosie DiManno of the Toronto Star assaults him again.

Fri, 17 May 2013 20:00:00 -0400

A man is sexually assaulted by four women. Rosie DiManno of the Toronto Star assaults him again.:

stfusexists:

Enquiring minds are eager to know what the heck befell a young man who was allegedly sexually assaulted by a group of women in downtown Toronto.

**Trigger Warning: Rape culture, victim blaming - exercise caution before clicking the link or reading further**

After a man - who is alternately referred to as a teenager - in Toronto reported to the police that he had been the victim of a sexual assault at the hands of four women in their thirties, Rosie DiManno thought it would be a good idea to pen one of the most disgusting, victim-blaming, pathetic excuse for an article I have ever had the misfortune of reading. DiManno inexplicably thought it was appropriate to write about a sexual assault using the following phrases:

“Of course, one man’s sexual assault is another man’s sexual fantasy come true.”

Having a fantasy of multiple simultaneous partners is not an invitation to be raped.

Mustn’t be seen to make light of an alleged sexual crime simply because the victim is a male…snickering quotient.”

Excuse me, but I simply don’t see the “snickering quotient” of someone being outnumbered, overpowered, and sexually assaulted. I doubt the millions of victims of sexual assault - victims of all genders - see that either.

“Sexual assault, you say? Lucky guy others say, nudge-nudge, a fivesome and didn’t even have to pay for it.”

Those people are despicable human beings, they are wrong, and they and their boss should probably be promptly fired from the Toronto Star.

“They could be sex molls or sex maulers.”

The fact that they were reported as perpetrators of a sexual assault makes them criminals, actually. What journalism program taught DiManno or any of her superiors that this was okay?

“Some “assaults’’ are merely unwanted touching, annoying for an adult woman but should be slapped down when they occur rather than directed to police.”

This teenager was offered a ride home by these women, and taken instead to an abandoned parking lot and assaulted. If this is something the police should ignore, I’m not sure what their role is in society.

Wanted: Bad girls in black minidresses and stilettos, approach with caution.

Yes, the sexual predators in their thirties are just “girls,” as well as an excellent punchline, according to the Toronto Star.

This isn’t DiManno’s first horrifying and utterly hamfisted attempt at being clever. In January, she came under fire for her disgusting coverage of another sexual assault, and the Star immediately came to her defense. As a result, another victim of sexual assault has been publicly mocked, mere weeks after teenage rape victim Rehteah Parsons tragically took her life after being mocked by her peers.

Please sign the petition to have Rosie DiManno fired. This is reprehensible, unacceptable, and cannot be allowed to continue.

(Thank you to reader verolynne for bringing this to my attention.)

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Fri, 17 May 2013 19:00:00 -0400

"[TW: domestic violence, abuse] The other question everybody asks is, why doesn’t she just leave? Why..."

Fri, 17 May 2013 18:00:00 -0400

“[TW: domestic violence, abuse] The other question everybody asks is, why doesn’t she just leave? Why didn’t I walk out? I could have left any time. To me, this is the saddest and most painful question that people ask, because we victims know something you usually don’t: It’s incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser. Because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is kill her. Over 70 percent of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship, after she’s gotten out, because then the abuser has nothing left to lose. Other outcomes include long-term stalking, even after the abuser remarries; denial of financial resources; and manipulation of the family court system to terrify the victim and her children, who are regularly forced by family court judges to spend unsupervised time with the man who beat their mother. And still we ask, why doesn’t she just leave?”

- “Why domestic violence victims don’t leave” - Leslie Morgan Steiner (via eaaao)

Read the comments on almost any story about a woman who was attacked/killed by partner, and I 100% guarantee you will see one that implies that the victim is at fault for not leaving or not leaving sooner. DON’T BLAME THE VICTIM.

(via stfuconservatives)

I feel like I constantly see people talk about leaving/staying as if it’s a choice that people in abusive relationships make, and it’d be really chill if we could all acknowledge that the ability to make a choice requires you not only to have options to begin with, but that you also have the privilege of a safe space in which to make them.

sunsetsoverariel: Daisy—Brand New “Or if the sky opened up and...

Thu, 16 May 2013 23:00:22 -0400

sunsetsoverariel:

Daisy—Brand New

“Or if the sky opened up and started pouring rain like he knew that it was time to start things over again, it’d be all right, it’s all right. It’d be easier that way.”

dude we need to stop making fun of teenage white girls and start making fun of teenage white boys...

Thu, 16 May 2013 22:00:23 -0400

dude we need to stop making fun of teenage white girls and start making fun of teenage white boys like they are literally the worst people in the world and if you don’t agree you’re in denial

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Thu, 16 May 2013 21:00:23 -0400

Rape Culture: If a woman drinks alcohol and gets raped, it's partially her fault. If you don't want to get raped, you shouldn't be drinking.

Thu, 16 May 2013 20:00:22 -0400

Rape Culture: If a woman drinks alcohol and gets raped, it's partially her fault. If you don't want to get raped, you shouldn't be drinking.
Men at bars: Can I buy you a drink?
Me: No thanks.
Men at bars: What the fuck, why not? Come on. Come ON, let me buy you some alcohol. God, I was being nice. Why would you turn down my generous offer? I guess chivalry really is dead. What a bitch.

role model 4 life

Thu, 16 May 2013 19:00:00 -0400

role model 4 life

"For the last three decades many Americans have puzzled over a system that gives an R to a movie in..."

Thu, 16 May 2013 18:00:00 -0400

““For the last three decades many Americans have puzzled over a system that gives an R to a movie in which a women is carved up by a chainsaw and an NC-17 to one that shows a woman sexually pleasured. From such ratings one might conclude that sexual violence against women is OK for American teenagers to see, but that they must be 18 to see consensual sex. What message does this send to the kids the MPAA presumably means to protect?””

- Carrie Rickey

(via fireworkselectricbright)

“You have to question a cinematic culture which preaches artistic expression, and yet would support a decision that is clearly a product of a patriarchy-dominant society, which tries to control how women are depicted on screen. The MPAA is okay supporting scenes that portray women in scenarios of sexual torture and violence for entertainment purposes, but they are trying to force us to look away from a scene that shows a woman in a sexual scenario which is both complicit and complex. It’s misogynistic in nature to try and control a woman’s sexual presentation of self. I consider this an issue that is bigger than this film.”

-Ryan Gosling on the controversy around the rating of his film ‘Blue Valentine’

(via misandry-mermaid)

Starring Role - Marina & the Diamonds

Wed, 15 May 2013 23:00:28 -0400

Starring Role - Marina & the Diamonds

mypatronusisyou: instead of banning girls from wearing certain things how about u just ban boys...

Wed, 15 May 2013 22:00:27 -0400

mypatronusisyou:

instead of banning girls from wearing certain things how about u just ban boys from being thirsty little hoes

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Wed, 15 May 2013 21:00:27 -0400

Dollars Over Decency: School Kids Without Money Have Lunch Taken Away And Thrown Out | Addicting Info

Wed, 15 May 2013 20:00:24 -0400

Dollars Over Decency: School Kids Without Money Have Lunch Taken Away And Thrown Out | Addicting Info:

randomactsofchaos:

ATTLEBORO — As many as 25 students at Coelho Middle School were denied meals or told to throw their lunches away Tuesday because they could not pay or their pre-paid accounts did not contain enough money, school officials said today.

Parents said some of the children cried after they were not allowed to eat or had to toss out their lunches.

School officials said an on-site employee from Whitson’s, the school system’s school lunch provider, apparently gave the order not to extend meals to students who could not pay or whose credit was already overextended. SOURCE

Imagine, for a second, the mindset required to force hungry children to throw food in the garbage? It’s not like the food was given to a child that could pay, it was just wasted. It’s the ultimate in conservative thought: I will gain nothing from this but the satisfaction of knowing you did not get a free meal.

This is why privatizing government functions is a bad idea is almost every circumstance but particularly in those that provide a direct service. Once a profit motive is introduced, it ceases to be about fulfilling a public need, now it becomes about making a profit by any means necessary. The idea of providing children a nutritious meal so they can grow and learn and contribute to society becomes a narrow and selfish pursuit of the bottom line. If children are left to go hungry, well, that’s capitalism for you!

It’s not as if they couldn’t feed them, the district has a policy where a student that can’t pay for the regular meal will be provided with a cheese sandwich and milk. It’s not the most appealing of meals but it will certainly keep a child fed. But instead, this privately run company decided that over twenty kids simply shouldn’t eat if it was going to cost the company money:

Parents said they were told by their children that some pupils in the cafeteria line had already picked up their lunch and were told at the checkout they had to throw it away.

Victoria Greaves, 11, a fifth grader at Coelho, said a cashier told her to throw away her lunch because there was not enough money in her account. She said she threw her meal away and got nothing to eat.

We’re left to wonder what the cashier planned on doing if the child refused to comply. Would they physically take the food away? Was the couple of dollars really that important?

The larger question that isn’t being asked yet is how did we come to a point where anyone can even think that depriving children of food is a moral thing to do? In the richest nation on Earth, are we so blinded by greed and the pursuit of the Holy Dollar that we don’t even consider that going out of our way to let a child go hungry to be the act of a sociopath? Would we rather throw food in the garbage than let someone eat it for free? Who thinks that way?

House Republicans recently proposed cuts to nutrition assistance that will kick 280,000 low-income children off automatic enrollment in the Free School Lunch and Breakfast Program. Those same kids and 1.5 million other people will also lose their Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (formerly food stamp benefits) that help them afford food at home.

Ah. Well, that explains that, doesn’t it?

starryfeet: mochente: Hari Kondabolu tells a feminist dick...

Wed, 15 May 2013 19:00:00 -0400

starryfeet:

mochente: Hari Kondabolu tells a feminist dick joke.

"Men and women are misogynistic for different reasons: men to marginalize women, and women to..."

Wed, 15 May 2013 18:00:00 -0400

“Men and women are misogynistic for different reasons: men to marginalize women, and women to ingratiate themselves with the men trying to marginalize them. Neither one is justifiable, but one is oppressive and the other is a (bad) strategy to deal with that oppression. One thus sees that if the men who are misogynists weren’t, the women who are misogynists wouldn’t have any reason to be. Ergo, exhorting women to stop being misogynists so that men will stop gets it precisely backwards.”

- http://www.shakesville.com/2010/01/feminism-101.html (via sister-bell)

Witchgreens \ Harlem ‘cause I’m into shit that...

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:00:00 -0400

Witchgreens \ Harlem

‘cause I’m into shit that you don’t even knowwww

wild-lion: I think it’s funny that people who treat you like shit get offended when you finally do...

Tue, 14 May 2013 22:00:00 -0400

wild-lion:

I think it’s funny that people who treat you like shit get offended when you finally do the same to them